When you begin to willingly let stuff go - the past, its people, things, and events (anything no longer serving a purpose in your life) - you will rest easier (especially at night) and feel so much better!
Have you honestly tried? Are you willing?
But, what if you literally can't?
What if: your past just replays itself - like a movie - uncontrollably in your mind, all on 'it's' own? Every single day?
"The past never sees the future" - J. Duplantis. I heard him quote this a few times over the last couple years during services I attended. I remind myself of this: when your back is turned completely toward your future, and you are just busy reliving your past.....you get nowhere, fast. And time keeps on moving.
Although I'm not a mental health expert - but I can share what has helped me. I asked God for help, and He has answered, giving me great tools that lead to a healthier mind. You want your memory, drive, ambition, energy, and focus back -- I'm sure! And joy for life and its relationships as well, too.
Tip #1: Being open to the truth.
Be able to receive and believe the truth about yourself and your situations. If you ask God to reveal it to you, He will. Use your God-given authority (Luke 10:19) to bind any demonic influence or interference (Matthew 18:18), as God begins to reveal things to your heart. The truth sets you free. Confront your feelings, let God reveal the source of the pain, then let it go - cast your cares on Him. (Psalm 55:22; 1 Peter 5:7). You must at least be willing to part ways with them. God showed me also, that even dwelling on the good things too long is a distraction - and, that there is a time and place for that. He will recall them for you when necessary.
Tip #2: Rest your mind - on purpose.
Start with small intervals - five minutes, then ten, then more - a few times a day, where you rest your mind and block out the thought process all together. Close your eyes, if you can. It begins to get easier and starts to contain fewer and fewer mistakes.
Tip #3: Spend time in silence, praying AND listening to God.
Listening, with a clear mind, is important. Shutting off the cell phone, TV, and busyness for at least one complete day is a must at this point - trust me. It also aids in clearing your mind, greatly reducing stress, and the ability to think clearer and remain less distracted. For me, this has proven to work almost as well as fasting (my own personal opinion!).
Then, regular stress/worry free time (alone) needs to be scheduled in, every week. Always check your schedule to make sure you aren't over-taxing yourself (remove your Super Woman or Super Man cape). Be realistic.
Yes, some aspects must be healed by God - and He will faithfully fulfill His word (Isaiah 55:11). Just remain yielded and available for it.
Tip #4: Ask for help!
Don't be afraid. Even Super Man had help ☺
Seriously. Even just one good friendship is worth its weight in gold! I have also prayed and ask God to show me someone, or to send help. Try it and see - be patient. God is always right on time (not your time, but HIS time).
Tip #5: Be a well-watered garden (Isaiah 58; Isaiah 58:11)
What you put in your mind, cultivates what your heart produces. What are you watering? What are you feeding the most? If all we watch is reality TV or fiction, drama, etc...what has been fed? Naturally and spiritually - whatever you choose to feed, water, and maintain, grows. The type of harvest you get, depends on what seeds you planted.
For a short while, I had to literally say the Word out loud to myself (or under my breath) every time a negative or condemning thought towards myself popped into my mind. For example: If I began to think of something that I was experiencing that felt difficult to handle or get out of, I would say, "that is NOT true. God doesn't waste anything; in fact, He is causing all things to work together for my good. I am fearfully and wonderfully made; my name is written on the palm of His hand..." and so forth. I allowed God to train me, and also give me a heart....to always see the good in everybody. Not only shortcomings. He reminds me of how much forgiveness I needed myself! The blood of Jesus didn't just wash over me - or you - but all who received the gift of it.
Last tip: HELP SOMEONE ELSE.
The perfect distraction from inward thinking of ones own problems and past is to help someone else. Volunteer; there are a number of options!
Let us pray:
Lord, we humbly approach your throne of grace (Hebrews 4:16), ready to let go of our pasts and embrace our future. Your intentions God for me is to actually live, thrive and prosper - in my mind, body, and soul; as well as in my natural environment too (Jeremiah 29:11; 3 John 1:2)! You provided for it all - everything we could need. So God, show me how to trust you - and trust that ultimately your decisions are best for me. Including those things I don't yet understand. Your ways are perfect! You love me beyond my comprehension. I am worthy of it all, simply because You said SO. In you, I am forgiven, and as white as snow (Isaiah 1:18). Renew my mind God, and bring about the healing I need. Send healthy and encouraging mentors into my life!
In Jesus name, Amen (so be it)!
About the Author
Davina is a working mother of three, who believes in introducing the true love of Christ to those she encounters, and desires to give the gift of this love to those in need that God has lead her way. She attends The Point Church of Trotwood, Ohio. She is a member of Young Women In Ministry, and is also an avid baker! See her treats at http://www.deesdelightsforyou.com